Tips for a new Auntie

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Re: Tips for a new Auntie

Postby flike » Fri Aug 19, 2016 05:34

Eh, screens (as in phone/tablet/pc) at 2 probably isn't fatal, and possibly it's good. After all, today's toddlers are going to be working with screens their entire lives, surely.

The bigger concern (to me) would be that the child's parents don't have their faces buried in screens during the kid's first 2 years. The first 2 years are very likely best spent concentrating on mom and dad's faces, as much as possible, and vice versa. So screens by kids aren't bad, but screen time by parents is probably really bad if the opportunity cost is ignoring the loving gaze of junior/princess.

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Re: Tips for a new Auntie

Postby divea » Fri Aug 19, 2016 07:37

Nothing you say will change it. Parents do think a kid doing things on screens are bright. Also it's a great baby sitter. And it lets everyone concentrate on their screens. If a mom(or dad) intrinsically doesn't feel the need to talk/play/work with the kid, they 'll justify their choices. As a parent I know it's horrid but being an early childhood teacher, I know it is bad. A child uses his hands to learn, that's why there's play dough and sand and water and mom's keys and Tupperware lids and blocks and balls. All that slowly wanes once you give the kid a screen. But then again, methinks mom and dad know that and will be either defensive or bitter about your suggestion.


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Re: Tips for a new Auntie

Postby Big Vern » Fri Aug 19, 2016 07:53

divea wrote: But then again, methinks mom and dad know that and will be either defensive or bitter about your suggestion.



Yep. Unfortunately, offering unsolicited advice to parents is only a good idea if you enjoy fights. Everyone's an expert at child-rearing, which is why there are no dysfunctional people around.

I think the only thing Icon can do is ensure that she spends as much time as she can playing with the kid in a normal way.

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